WannaBeNormal - My Search for Peace, Love & Empathy

Friends I am LIVID!!!!!!

I have sent letters, emails, made phone calls, and I am actually getting somewhere I think, people are answering now, however, the ONE person I thought would be my best ally turned out to be not just a disappointment but a slap in the face! I can not even believe his response to my request for help.

I KNOW this man, I have brought my daughter to him, he was a doctor in our community years ago before he got involved in politics. Even after he became a representative, he attended a church that we attended, we’ve spoken with him personally as he was an elder of the church, and the way it was set up, he made a few sermons even, and whether he was there or not, we were told to pray for him as he made “important decisions in our nations capital” as the other elders said.

So I sent him the email, and I showed you his first response, basically said he could only help me as a doc not a rep, I thought because his aide sent it she must’ve been confused, but I thanked him for the response and said any help would be appreciated.

This afternoon I received this email from him:

I recommend that you continue going to the surgeon and have his office fight for you. It sounds like you completed the financial information for the uncompensated care application. There is no legal right that allows you to demand that surgery be provided to you, but in most cases the hospital tries to work out arrangements.





Sincerely,



Wayne Cooper, MD

Demanded????? Is pleading and begging demanding???? I was literally CRUSHED by this response. I do NOT think I am asking too much to get the hospital to hurry up with their decision and allow the surgery to be preformed there, and NEVER did I ask for them to do it for FREE!!!!!!! I asked for consideration of my financial situation and an affordable payment plan. If they are going to charge me the full 15k for the surgery then fine, but could they make the payments like fifty bucks a month for the rest of my life? I do not even believe this, it hurt me so bad, this is EXACTLY what I mean, the state could care less. If this were his mother, or his daughter, he would be doing all that I am and more, yet he faults me for my efforts??????

So I responded:
So they allow someone to die waiting for surgery? Wow, our state cares that little about the lives of human beings residing in their state?
Do you know what it feels like to be on a liquid diet for two weeks yet STILL have gall bladder attacks?
Do you know what it feels like to have no strength to get out of bed yet u have to, because two little lives depend on you to fulfill their daily needs?
Do you know how it feels to have someone who you KNOW, who you have met, shook hands with, went to church with, voted for, tell you that it doesnt matter how sick you are no one owes u anything? Some one to be so callous and uncaring, to not even try to help?

I hope you never know any of it, but be assured, the local papers will want to put this in their story.

I do have people in your position actually TRYING TO HELP and trying to FIGHT FOR MY LIFE, and it really saddens me that you, who I actually KNOW cant be bothered.

I dont want to surgery for FREE, i dont look for handouts, I asked for HELP, ASSISTANCE, and some type of payment plan arrangements. You apparently read my letter wrong or didnt take the time to read it at all.

The system HAS wronged me, I received poor and improper treatment and your lack of concern wont convince me otherwise. Thanks for the two seconds it took to send me a blow off letter.

His office responded:

Dr. Cooper suggested that you work out payment arrangements with the surgeon’s office.

To which I replied:
I have arrangements with the surgeons office, in fact, them I can pay in full, it is the HOSPITAL that is refusing to allow him to do the surgery the HE says I NEED, I have no problems with my surgeon. Its the hospital that will only treat wealthy people

One side note, I am truly disheartened by this, its hard, but everything I have been through I have been trying to not take it personally, thats how the system is etc, but this, from Dr. Cooper, whom I have met, whom I have sat next to at church, THIS hurts personally and deeply. I have a senator calling the hospital on my behalf trying to speed up the process, that person has never met me, and Dr. Cooper is able to toss the matter aside so callously and i KNOW him, he treated my DAUGHTER once when Dr. Franklin was out, well its hard not to take this as a personal slap in the face. Its my fault for expecting anyone to care in a system that teaches us not to.

DESPITE THIS, I received a call hours later that my the hospital called my doc and said SCHEDULE THE SURGERY!!!!!

No date, I find out tomorrow, but the nurse said NEXT WEEK but this thing with Dr. Cooper isnt over, he WILL get more letters from me, and I will get his name in print, nothing slanderous, only the truth. How DARE he treat me like that when all i did was ask him for help!!!!!