For Terry
I lost a dear friend today. His name was Terry, and most of you will never know what a great man he was. I sit here crying, I know in my heart that he is in a better place, free from the cancer that ravaged him, and the pain that plagued him, making him unable to eat, taking away his energy, his zest. He never lost his sense of humor though, and as down as he got, he was always kind to my family, especially my children. I dont cry because he’s gone, though i will miss him dearly, I know he will live on forever, in our hearts and in his children. I cry because I was once as his are now. My Dad left me at around the same age, and its hard, its hard to grow up with out him seeing all of the landmark achievements in my life. They had their Dads guidance for such a short time, but they are good kids, and I know they will be fine. Its just sad for me, knowing the bittersweet pain that always comes with the joy because my Dad isnt here to share it with me is going to be something they go through as well.
I wrote a brief poem about him, it probably no good because of the emotions that are clouding my brain, but its ok if it isnt, its to Terry, and its from the heart, and thats all that matters.
We lost a friend today…………
His light extinguished
He may not have been well known, but those who had the honor of knowing him loved him dearly
Those who knew him saw his kindness and generosity
His love for his family and friends
We will always miss his laughter
The way he always had something for the kids
The way his family was the most important thing in his life
And how he’d do anything for a friend.
Today we mourn the loss of his life here with us.
The world feels a little colder
The flowers a bit duller
The sun has lost a bit of its shine.
Though he is no longer with us in body,
His spirit will always be in our hearts.
We will forever see him sitting in his lawn chair
Laughing at the kids hyjinx
Or in the faces of his children who were his pride and joy.
We are sad that he is gone, so today we will cry as we say goodbye
But we will also be thankful for the time we did spend with him
And glad as well that he is free from the burden of his pain
He suffers no more from the sickness that ravaged his body
That took away his quality of life
We will miss him everyday
He touched our lives, he touched our hearts and the passing of a spirit will never take away that imprint, the mark he left
We bid farewell to Terry today, but we know he will never be really gone, so long as his memory lives on
The world has lost a great man but it didn’t go unnoticed, his loss will be felt, just as his life was, and this great man will never be forgotten by the people he left behind.
I know somewhere Terry is smiling down on us all, he’s saying do not be sad, I am with you always, and I am finally at peace.
His light is not extinguished; his light shines brightly always, forever, in our hearts
Aww Jo I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your friend! I know what this kind of loss feels like, when I lost my brother I just did not think i could go on and I wondered how the rest of the world could? I hated them for not stoping their lives cause my brother died! But as time went on I began to realize that my life did not stop when my brothers did, and now I have my hubby and Babyjunebug and I would not have if life had stopped for me that day too! So i guess what i am trying to as is……..all you are feeling is totally normal and in time things with be better. You will not totally get over this but it will get some better! I will keep you and your friends family in my prayers tonight!~~~~~~~~~~love junebug
I think you said it beautifully Jo…..He obviously touched more people than he knew…I luv Ya~Becky
Jo, what a wonderful tribute to your friend…and it IS good. Make sure you print it out and give a copy to each member of his family…they will cherish it, I assure you.
I’m sorry that you lost your friend, but you’re right, he is no longer suffering. Cancer is a terrible thing…it takes a toll on the entire family, it halts normal life for the healthy, and so although they are sad, they can start to live again, too.
I will say a prayer for Terry and his family, and you and your family.
Take care,
Bnicho
Dear Jo, Such a wonderful tribute to a man who was obviously a dear friend. Though you will miss him you will always have his memories to brighten your day. My spirit is with you and my blessings and prayers for his family. Bonnie
Jo,
I have to say once again, how much I admire you…I am in awe that you can still find words in such a time that takes not only peoples breath away but especially WORDS away….
I have lost ALL creativity in the last year, including writting…
I am SO happy to see that it hasn’t escaped you and that u r still able to get things out thru “verbage”…
My daughter’s class friend lost her dad early January (an explamplary father that we all loved and admired…only 42…life lost, also to Cancer…)- I am still greiving this loss but what makes it worse is seeing the wife and 2 girls (Kindergarten and 1rst grade)…. WHY should this happen???? We will never know….
I hope u can find comfort and peace in knowing that he isn’t hurting anymore…
The hard part is the people left behind…..
I feel for you and his family…all are in my prayers!!!!
Much love!
jo,
well done. i’m sorry about your loss.
Jo,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know things can seem difficult at the moment, but there is sunshine coming your way! Thanks again for all your support regarding using the computer etc.. I wish you and your family, Nanabee extra garce during these trying times. I know you do not know me to well, but know I am always here for you. You are a very special person with SO many talenst and I know it will all come in to palce in the near future!!!!
Peace and Healing,
Erica
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