Child Support
Ok this is a topic that’s near and dear and unfortunately I know of several people struggling with these issues right now. This is my opinion, and my opinion may not be the same as everyone else’s but this is my site, so I can post my opinion here if I want 
I have three friends right now struggling to get child support for their kids. I do not understand this. If you have a child, you must pay for this child’s care and well being. In my opinion, you gotta be all kinds of selfish if you have stuff and you won’t give money to support YOUR child, which YOU helped create.
Let’s think about this for a minute. I understand that sometimes people can be manipulative and use a child as a pawn, but ultimately it’s broken down to this:
By having sex with someone, you are taking a chance that you will make a baby with them. You can take all the precautions in the world, but by having sex, there’s still the chance that you’ll make a baby.
It takes TWO people to take that chance. Just because the woman is the one who will carry the child doesn’t mean its her responsibility alone. And you should know each others feelings about the chance of having a child BEFORE you have sex. For example, if you don’t believe in abortion, make that clear.
Then, IF it does happen, that’s BOTH persons responsibility. The child did not ask to be born, it can not be blamed and should not be punished just because the two people are no longer together. You may hate your former partner, but what did the innocent child ever do to you? Doesn’t that child have a right to food in its tummy and clothes on its back?
If it seems like I am addressing this to men, it’s only because the people in the situations that I am talking about are struggling with the Dads to help out, but I know of situations where the father has had the child and the woman has been the one not wanting to help out. As a PARENT I can not imagine not caring if your child has food to eat, or clothes to wear. I have heard the excuses:
if I can’t see my child on my terms why should I give them money? Because it’s still YOUR child!!!! No one said it was always going to be just the way YOU wanted it.
They have turned (child) against me, the kid doesn’t want anything to do with me, why should I pay them anything for a kid who hates me? Because it’s still YOUR child!!! And if ‘they’ were able to turn that child against you, where were you that you had no influence over the child? Maybe if you had made it a priority in your life to see the child and spend time with it, they wouldn’t have been able to ‘turn the child against you’.
I don’t have any extra money right now. Well taking care of your child’s needs shouldn’t be considered EXTRA money, if you have money to eat, then why doesn’t your child? Unless you are going hungry yourself, that’s no excuse. A child has no way to make the money it takes to live, YOU DO.
Ok I’ll get down off my soapbox for now, but a plea to all the parents out there, put aside your differences, for the sake of the child you helped create, and do what you need to do to help care for your child. You don’t have to like your former partner, there are ways you could see your child and send money for your child without ever having to talk to your former partner again, but your child is the main concern here, an innocent victim who has no voice, so please think about what you are doing and work out a plan that fits into your life that will benefit the child and make sure the child has everything he or she needs in life. That’s the responsibility you took on by creating the child in the first place and regardless of your current situation that responsibility should be at the top of your priority list. Quit thinking of your child as a burden, they are the most precious gifts we can ever receive and should be regarded as such. Just try and put everything else aside and think about the poor defenseless child who depends on others for their safety and well being. They deserve that.